The Waitlist: Strategy Matters…But So Does Perspective
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Few outcomes in college admissions create more anxiety than this one: waitlisted. And unfortunately, in today’s admissions cycle, it’s increasingly common—even for students who already have strong acceptances elsewhere.
If you’re on the waitlist, it’s tough—no question. That said there are smart, strategic ways to improve your chances of being admitted off the waitlist (see below). But – and this is important – there is also a moment where strategy must give way to perspective.
So, here’s my advice to any student navigating the ambiguity that is the waitlist.
First, start with what you can control.
If the college allows it, submit a Letter of Continued Interest (LOCI), or enter the statement on their website where instructed. This is not a place for fluff. It’s a place for clarity and commitment. Reaffirm that the school is a top choice (and only say that if it’s true…colleges can sense insincerity a mile away). Provide meaningful updates: new grades, awards, leadership roles, or accomplishments since you applied.
Second, follow instructions…precisely. Some colleges welcome additional materials; others explicitly say “do not send anything.” This is not the time to freelance. Admissions offices are evaluating not just your achievements, but your ability to follow directions.
Third, consider an additional recommendation – if appropriate. A thoughtful note from a teacher, counselor, or mentor who can add a new dimension to your story can help. But more is not always better. Quality wins here, full stop.
Fourth, stay engaged (but not overbearing). If the school tracks demonstrated interest, attending a virtual session or reaching out with a thoughtful question can reinforce your commitment. Just don’t confuse persistence with pressure.
Now…here’s the part most people don’t talk about.
Once you’ve done these things, once you’ve put your best foot forward, you need to shift your mindset.
Because the truth is, the waitlist is not something you can control.
The truth is, college admissions at selective universities involves far more qualified applicants than available spots. Institutional priorities, enrollment targets, financial aid budgets…all of these factors play a role behind the scenes. And none of them are in your hands.
So after you’ve executed your strategy, I want you to do something that feels counterintuitive:
Let it go.
Focus your energy on the schools that have already said “yes.” Those are not consolation prizes. Those are real opportunities, places where you were wanted, where you can thrive, and where your next four years (and really, your next forty) can take shape.
I’ve seen this play out time and again. Students who were initially disappointed end up finding incredible success, and happiness, at schools that weren’t their original “dream.”
One family I worked with years ago was waitlisted at her first choice school. She ended up enrolling at the University of Florida. Sometime in May, she was notified by First Choice University that they had a spot for her, but by that time she felt committed to UF. She decided to decline the offer of admission off the waitlist, which turned out to be a great decision.
In summary, when it comes to the waitlist:
Do what you can. Advocate for yourself. Be thoughtful and strategic.
Then…trust the process and embrace the opportunities already in front of you.
Because in the end, this journey isn’t about chasing a single door opening, it’s about walking confidently through the right one.
